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What does “feminism” mean today? That is the question at the heart of We Should All Be Feminists, a personal, eloquently-argued essay—adapted from her much-viewed Tedx talk of the same name—by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, the award-winning author of Americanah and Half of a Yellow Sun. With humor and levity, here Adichie offers readers a unique definition of feminism for the twenty-first century—one rooted in inclusion and awareness. She shines a light not only on blatant discrimination, but also the more insidious, institutional behaviors that marginalize women around the world, in order to help readers of all walks of life better understand the often masked realities of sexual politics. Throughout, she draws extensively on her own experiences—in the U.S., in her native Nigeria, and abroad—offering an artfully nuanced explanation of why the gender divide is harmful for women and men, alike. Argued in the same observant, witty and clever prose that has made Adichie a bestselling novelist, here is one remarkable author’s exploration of what it means to be a woman today—and an of-the-moment rallying cry for why we should all be feminists.

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“Culture does not make people. People make culture. ”

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is the author of Americanah and Half of a Yellow Sun, a book that highly recommend. This essay is based on a TED talk with the same title and it encourages us not to be negatively influenced by the bad reputation the word “feminism“ has built and that we need to educate our children to understand the importance of gender equality. I liked some of the arguments brought forward but I did not have the feeling she said something new or groundbreaking. I suspect that her TED talk was more powerful and I feel that the impact of her words is heightened in speech.

I am a feminist. I’ve been a feminist since I was a child and one of the things that made me angry (and still does) is gender expectancy. Since we are little girls we learn that we need to be delicate, girlish, to play with dolls, to like pink (try to find girl toys that are not pink) etc. Girls who have other preferences are called boyish, rebels. I was a girly child but I hated it when my mum other people told me that a girl should/should not do this and that. The same happens when we grow older. We are expected to cook, do house chores, not to eat too much or do anything that will make us a less worthy match. We need to please men, find a husband and procreate. That is meant to be the ultimate goal in the life of a woman, even in a modern society. As Adichie also says, it is not the same thing with men, they are not expected to learn how to please a woman.

„We teach females that in relationships, compromise is what a woman is more likely to do. ”

I know things are improving but there still is a long way to go. I saw some articles the other day about Amal Clooney’s speech at UN where she requested for ISIS to be held responsible for the crimes they committed. Can you guess what the titles of the story were? Amal shows her baby bump at the ONU speech!! Seriously, that was the most important thing to tell about her presence there? Dont get me wrong, it is beautiful that she has a little human growing inside her but I do not think it was the case to talk about that in those circumstances.

That reminds me of a different problem that I face at work sometimes. During business trips I meet mainly with men and I sometimes worry what should I wear. Should I wear a dress, as I usually like to, or should I wear pants in order to be taken more seriously? Adichie touched this subject as well in her essay, discussing one lecture where she decided to dress uncomfortably and out of character in order to be respected.

@The sad truth of the matter is that when it comes to appearance, we start off with men as the standard, as the norm. Many of us think that the less feminine a woman appears, the more likely she is to be taken seriously. A man going to a business meeting doesn’t wonder about being taken seriously based on what he is wearing—but a woman [email protected]

I think people still consider that in order to be successful person (man or woman) one needs to be tough, manly and it angers me. Not everybody is like this and it should not be an aspiration. Each of us, men or women, have our wonderful qualities, we need to cherish them and be ourselves. The pressure that you can only achieve success by being @[email protected] also affects men who need to live to the expectations. I liked that Adichie also discusses the expectations society has for men and that they can also be harmful.

@Gender matters everywhere in the world. And I would like today to ask that we begin to dream about and plan for a different world. A fairer world. A world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves. And this is how to start: We must raise our daughters differently. We must also raise our sons [email protected]

مشاهده لینک اصلی
This is the published version of CNAs famous Tedx talk which I had put on my youtube watch later list and never quite managed to get to in the end.

Its so perfectly presented and written (albeit in a very simplistic manner with little to no token humor thrown in to engage a live audience) that I dont know how to review this except by saying I nodded my head vigorously to every logical inference Adichie drew from her own experiences and those of her family and acquaintances in Nigeria and the U.S. Even her anecdote about a friend named Louis who kept telling her, @I dont see what you mean by things being different and harder for women. Maybe it was so in the past but not now. Everything is fine now for [email protected] rung true in my ears because I have a friend exactly like Louis who used to think everything is hunky dory for women these days until I successfully talked him out of that delusion. My only grouse is that I would have loved for CNA to expand on the core themes of her lecture and write a series of full-fledged essays on the topics instead of publishing this short talk.

Also heres what she says about those who raise objections to the term feminism -
Some people ask: @Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like [email protected] Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general - but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women. That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human.

There. Thank you for saying that Chimamanda.

مشاهده لینک اصلی
“Women’s rights have come a long way”; something we’ve all heard before. But we’ve got a long way to go, I think we all agree on that. No one person’s actions, thoughts, or words are going to end the oppression, if I may use that word. But we can all contribute something positive, something that creates a dialogue about change, something that becomes “another brick in the wall”. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s essay is just that, but it’s a very big brick, and it’s truths are undeniable. Everyone should read this, regardless of their preconceived ideas on the subject.

مشاهده لینک اصلی
FEMINIST: A person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.

I was raised by two feminist my mother and my father. Though my father would never call himself a feminist not because its a dirty word but because he believes as does Ms. Adiche that we should all be feminist. My mother was a feminist but she too would never call herself that, because she was told on multiple occasions by other feminist that she wasnt one because she chose to stay home and raise my sister and me. These women liked to tell my mother that she was setting women back 20 years and that she was being controlled by my father.

None of you guys ever got the pleasure of meeting my mother but I can tell you one thing..

No One Controlled Donna Patton EVER!

I feel as though both feminist and non feminist fall in to the trap of thinking that you cant be a stay at home mom and a strong independent feminist at the same time. My dad didnt force my mother to quit being a nurse and stay home. My mother made that decision, because she controlled her own life. My dad may have made the money but my mom made all the decisions. My dad is strong enough to handle a strong woman.

In We Should All Be Feminist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie simply asks that we take a look at how society effects gender dynamics. Society tells us you cant be both feminine and be taken seriously. Society tells us that if you hadnt been wearing that miniskirt you wouldnt have been raped. Society tells us that men cant be sensitive they must always be hard and strong.

Ms. Adiche asks us to look at all the little ways societal gender roles are ingrained in all of us. I still expect the guy to pay when we go out to eat. Does that make me less of a feminist? I dont think so but it probably does to those women who looked down on my mother for staying home to raise her kids.

A must read for All genders.

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